Coupled with living in the here and now, and even more importantly, perhaps a woman who is truly free of feminism is one who seeks her husband's will and direction for the family (in other words, submits), rather than be swayed by progressive or regressive feminist visions. In my years of blogging and trying to pin down my beliefs, I have realized that it ultimately comes down to not following a feminist or traditionalist path, but in submitting to your husband. If he feels it best for the family for her to work, then she should work. If he feels it is best for the family for her to be at home, then she should be at home. Different periods of family life may call for alternating periods of working and staying home based on dealing with the reality of whatever situation is at hand.
In conclusion, it does seem feminists and conservatives are all cut from the same cloth; the cloth that does not live in the here and now, but in some fantasy land of how it used to be or how it should be.
The whole post is just fantastic, but this excerpt does a good job of noting how feminism can be either incredibly obvious or incredibly subtle. Progressive feminists—those who generally argue for laws that decree women to be equal to men—are far more obvious in their feminism while regressive feminists—those who think that women’s superiority to men stems from the differences between the sexes—are far more subtle. It is the latter that is especially pernicious because it doesn’t seem obviously wrong.
The regressive feminists are generally conservative women who generally make sweeping declarations that a woman’s place is in the home and that women should take care of their family by being at home and assuming their traditional gender role. This is often done under the guise of -religion as well.
However, as Laura notes, the proper role of any given woman is what her husband deems it to be. If one’s husband desires his wife to keep his home and homeschool his children then that is one’s proper role. If one’s husband desires his wife to go out and earn that bread then that is one’s proper role. If one’s husband desires his wife to be his personal sex slave, then that would be her proper role. If one’s husband desires for his wife to be a business partner, then that would be her proper role. As is hopefully clear, a woman’s place is not necessarily in the home or beside her man. A woman’s place is where her husband says it is.